Recently, my "best" friend since 1st grade and I had a little falling out. It's a story that's too long for this medium, but long story short, she said we no longer had anything in common (read: "I have a kid and you don't, so we can't be friends anymore.) and that we had just grown apart. We later sorta made up and were supposedly "cool", but I guess that was not so true.
When I started into this vacuum business, I told all my friends and family that I needed to use them as guinea pigs to practice on. She jokingly (or so I thought) said not to call her because she already had an awesome and expensive vacuum, and would never consider buying mine. So I jokingly (ok, maybe not totally joking) replied that she owed me because I was the one that threw her first pampered chef party when she started selling it. A week or so later I texted her to see when would be a good time to do my practice show for her, and in very few words (one to be exact, "nope") she let me know that she wouldn't be volunteering her time for me. So I got over it, realized that maybe we're not so "cool" after all, and moved on. Then today I get a message on facebook from her, inviting me to a Mary Kay party that her sister-in-law is throwing to mark the start of her new career. She told me (and a lot of other people that got the mass message, I'm sure) that we should all try to come because her sister-in-law really needed the practice! Can you believe the nerve of this woman? She's supposed to be my BEST friend, yet won't help me out when I need it, and then has the audacity to ask me to help out her sister-in-law!! I'm completely appalled and have no idea how to respond. Do I simply ignore her request, and take the high road, or do I go off on her in a long drawn out facebook message about how unbelievably rude she is, and which part of my body she should put her lips to and blow? I'm not yet sure which road I'll choose, but I do know that I no longer like, or really even know, this woman that my once only friend has become. I guess anyone can fall victim to the whole "growing apart" tragedy that I always used to think was just a lame excuse to quit talking to someone that pissed you off. I used to think that if you really cared about someone, you could make the relationship work, no matter what. But now I see that I may have been wrong, and maybe people really do just grow apart.
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as an update, we still don't really talk anymore. we've messaged back and forth on facebook a few times, but only small talk. and we didn't exchange xmas presents this year, which was a first. so, i guess it really is over. at least as i knew it to be. oh well, since i've discovered that i'm a snob now, it really doesn't matter to me anymore!
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